Go, Democracy!

Hallo! It hasn't been a while since my last post (so happy!) but you know, when I go back through my drafts (the four latest posts are all drafts that has been in archive for months or years or something) I remember that I didn't feel like posting them because I don't think they are worth posting at the time. I thought they were silly.

I see that it only needs time to see that some of it aren't.

And you know, now that I read my posts, I realized that... when I talked about stuffs that aren't life updates, I mostly talked about stuffs that are immaterial, am I not? Even more so, I personally think that I like to talk about the idea of self--the idea of emotions, feelings, attitudes, perceptions, blahblahblah. Things that some people deemed as unimportant.

I guess I write that sort of stuff because those things are what's important for me. Because those things bug me when they're left unwritten. But just like me, there are people who think their thoughts about politics or society are important so that's what they write. On the other hand, movies or writings or fictions in general are important and worth archiving for some other people. Or anything really. I know that some other people like talking or thinking about gender equality, or animal rights, or porn, or other whatevs and some people don't. Some people like other stuff better.

But that's not a big deal right? It's not like one is better than the other...

Or is it?
Is any of those preference better than the other?


I don't think so. It doesn't make any of them worse or better--just different.

Is different a bad thing?
Supposedly, no.


But I see that a lot of people think otherwise. There are people that think if it's impractical or "abstract" or "just" a form of expression then it sucks--philosophers and writers and artists are mere lazybums who talk and do stupid stuff but don't do anything important for society, they say. But when it's practical then it sucks too--engineers and politicians and whatnot are focusing on things that are artificial and unimportant, what's important it's what inside and what makes human human, they say. When it's reviewing stuffs it sucks too--blahblahblah you criticizing stuffs, just try when you make one on your own!

But sadly, differences aren't just exists in what people prefer to write.


We people are the same: we are all different. I believe that there is no single person that share the same physical features, and set of minds, and field of experience, and also views over everything.

And tell me...

..who in the world has the right--has the capacity--to judge one of which are better or "more important" than the other?





(Apparently, majority does.)

Moving On

You see, moving on is not about forgetting what's keeping you. It's to get rid of ill feelings that attached to it. So if you had a boyfriend and want to move on, you don't forget about him. You lose feelings you associate with him--feelings that shouldn't be there anymore. If you had a bad grade and you want to move on, you don't burn them down. You get rid of the grief and sadness and do better next time. If you were left behind and you want to move on, you don't erase traces of them.

I do too.

I am not forgetting, okay? I won't.

Moving on is not about not keeping pictures anymore, nor not telling stories about stuffs you want to move on from. It's not about pretending that nothing has changed either because things changed and it will always change--it's inevitable.

Moving on, for me, is not about stop loving, or missing, or remembering things that are nice or bad.
Moving on is knowing things changed and being fine with it.

And moving on has nothing to do with replacing things with other things. Or replacing people with other people.

Places in heart are special and they don't take second guests. There are no places in heart that are reserved for two (or three. Or four.). Once it's there then it's there forever. Fortunately, heart is a very vast place and it will always make room for new things and new people.



So move on.

Don't try to replace things because it's not going to work. And don't try to take up someone else's space in one's heart because they were never for you.

You got your own.
(That is, if you ever get it one's heart, but yeah.)